Valentine’s day approaches, birthdays abound, Christmas doesn’t seem that long ago. Gift giving empties our wallets and overfills our cupboards, but pleases the inner voice telling us that ‘giving things means love’.
Indeed one of the five famous 'Love Languages' is Giving Gifts. And for someone whose top love language is Giving then receiving is also important. However, if it is important to them, then it’s not so much the monetary value as the act of giving/receiving that was important.
Gifters often pull out all stops trying to impress a receiver. They shoehorn time into their overstretched day to hit the shops at the last minute. Then overstretch their budgets on something that’ll ‘have to do’... Then afterwards the recipient has to find a place for the gift and look after it carefully for the foreseeable future until, after years of storage and shuffling it around they feel guilt at biffing it out while hoping the giver won’t notice.
The whole point of gifts on these special days is LOVE. Unless you’re getting them something they happen to really need this week, think about how you can send the experience of happiness and love instead of consumerism.
Here’s the best gift you can possibly give:
Write them a simple Love letter: Write some things that are great about them, and what they mean to you, in a short letter. Then roll it up and wrap it in a ribbon. It looks beautiful then stores flat and I’ll bet gets read at least 50 times. I’ve done this for my own children when they needed encouragement, and years later they still read them!
Flowers and chocolates are great at not cluttering up the place, and plants are ever-changing which makes them more interesting than photos that you get bored with looking at after about a year. But it’s the love letter that has always reigned supreme!
Don’t complicate it. Don't worry about perfect spelling or making it beautiful. The words always speak for themselves.